Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Validate me!

Hello friends! Today I am going to talk to you about a very important topic for human beings. It is the primary driving force behind most actions, and many reactions. It is (wait for..) the need for (..it) validation! Oh the title already gave it away. Repeating it, since it's likely all those brackets and unnecessary what-nots distracted you: The Need for Validation.

Everyone wants to be praised, to be appreciated, to be acknowledged for the things they do, the things they create, the way they do. Someone puts up a link/photo/factoid about self on facebook, they want it to be acknowledged, they want it to be liked. I write a blog post, I hope for wait for dream about some comments and hopefully some appreciation (in case you didn't get it, that was a big bold HINT - wink wink?) A child wants you to tell them how good a drawing they made, a wife wants you to tell her you're proud of an achievement, a husband wants you to praise the food he made lovingly for you. See what I did there? :) Ha!

Of course, this varies from person to person. Some people keep telling the world what they did, and the world, for the most part, duly acknowledges, fueling the circle. Then I think there is a category of people that try for appreciation, but give up at some point and adopt a devil-may-care attitude. Some people are born with that attitude. I get it, some of you don't care! But face it, where we want or seek validation may differ, but we do tend to want it. It may be from the workplace, home, social circle, anything. Maybe you want people to think you're funny, maybe that you're awesome at programming, maybe you make a mean gajar halwa!

Deep down, I think most of us are  a bunch of love-hungry attention-starved humans. And sometimes we forget that we're not the only ones, so we forget to give before we can get.

How about stepping out today, and telling someone what you appreciate about them?


Sin said...

I agree everyone loves appreciation but you value it only if its rare.I am not sure i would care so much for it , if it came everytime you post something.It would then seem shallow.So here i am *rarely* appreciating your blogs that i absolutely love reading!;)

The Mad Hatter said...

You write really well, you know ;)

Rach said...

*suitably embarrassed*

Ah kind people. The admiration is clearly mutual ;) [I added that wink just to complement both your answers' wink emoticons :) but the sentiment is genuine :D] Please go see each other's blogs and extend the admiration :)

Sin: Nice trick :P

Ashish said...

You are quite like me :) I am seeking attention all the time - you know it well, but I also realized when they asked me the question about what is it that will make me happier at work, and my answer turned out to be 'recognition'.